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You Swore You'd Never Parent Like You Were Raised.
When you're calm, you parent the way you want to. But when the pressure hits, old patterns take over. The Calm & Connected Parent is the complete learning experience -- book, 4-week companion course, companion workbook, and four recorded Q&A sessions -- built to help you break the cycle for good. Drawn from Todd Sarner's 22+ years guiding over 2,000 families.
★★★★★ 4.9 on Amazon · 50+ five-star reviews
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Here's How to Actually Stop.
DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?
The Patterns That Keep You Stuck
It's 7:42 a.m. You've asked three times for shoes to go on feet. Your child is negotiating like a tiny lawyer, and you can feel your calm evaporating.
Or maybe it's the nightly screen battle. Five more minutes turns into twenty, followed by tears. Theirs and yours.
You and your partner handle things differently, and the tension is building. Your strong-willed child pushes every boundary. You swore you'd never parent like you were raised, but under stress, those patterns show up anyway.
You've tried charts, consequences, and every parenting strategy on Instagram. But you're still trapped in the same cycles.
Here's what no one tells you. The problem isn't your child's behavior. It's that most parenting advice skips the part that actually matters. Your own regulation. Your own presence. The relationship underneath the behavior.
Time-outs, reward charts, and consequences can create compliance, but not connection. And without connection, nothing sticks.
THE REAL PROBLEM
Why Parenting Feels Impossible Isn't Just One Thing.
You promised yourself you'd do it differently. And most of the time, you do. But in the hardest moments -- when your child is defiant, when the evening is falling apart, when your patience is gone -- something older takes over. You hear your parent's voice come out of your mouth. You react the way you swore you never would.
It's not a willpower problem. So what's actually going on?
Under stress, your nervous system defaults to what was modeled for you as a child. Knowing better isn't enough to override it.
You're getting contradictory advice from different experts, each with their own framework. You're applying strategies that were built for some imaginary average child, not the bright, sensitive, or strong-willed kid you actually live with. You and your partner are working from different playbooks, often without realizing it. And when the pressure hits, your own nervous system runs faster than your best intentions.
Willpower alone can't break that cycle. Another technique can't break it either. What you need is a coherent framework that rewires the pattern at its source. One that gives you the missing pieces, cuts through the contradictory advice, adapts to your actual child, aligns you with your partner, and gives you the daily practice to make the new way automatic when it matters most.
That's what The Calm & Connected Parent was built to do. And the book alone only gets you part of the way. The complete bundle gives you the framework, the daily practice, the companion workbook, and the coaching to make the shift last.
A THIRD WAY
Beyond Permissive Parenting and Strict Control
There's a false choice in parenting today. Either you set firm boundaries and feel like an authoritarian, or you prioritize connection and worry you're too soft.
The Calm & Connected approach sits in a different place. It's not about being your child's friend, and it's not about wielding power. It's about your nervous system being regulated enough that you can hold both boundaries and compassion at the same time.
When you can stay calm in the storm, your rules matter more. Your consistency means something. Your love gets through. And your child experiences discipline not as punishment, but as the structure that helps them feel safe.
WHAT MAKES THIS DIFFERENT
Why This Works When Other Approaches Haven't
WHAT YOU'VE TRIED
Contradictory advice from different experts. One says firm boundaries, another says gentle. One says consequences, another says connection. You're left patching together a playbook that doesn't quite hold together.
WHAT THIS DOES
Gives you one coherent framework rooted in 22 years of clinical practice and attachment science. You stop hunting for the right answer and start working from an integrated approach that actually hangs together.
WHAT THIS DOES
WHAT YOU'VE TRIED
One-size-fits-all strategies built for some imaginary average child. But your child is bright, sensitive, strong-willed, neurodivergent, or all of the above, and the standard techniques keep missing the mark.
Starts with understanding your specific child and your specific family. The framework flexes to temperament, developmental stage, and the patterns playing out in your home, not a textbook one.
WHAT YOU'VE TRIED
White-knuckling through it alone while your partner operates from a different playbook. You undercut each other without meaning to, and the kids sense the mixed signals immediately.
Gives you and your partner a shared language and approach you can both follow. The daily practices and recorded Q&A sessions work whether one or both of you engage, so you stop pulling in different directions.
WHAT THIS DOES
WHAT YOU'LL READ
A Complete Framework. Four Parts. One Clear Path.
The book follows the same proven sequence Todd uses with families in his clinical practice. Each phase builds on the last.
Part I. Become the Leader They'll Follow. Understand why your child resists, and how to become the calm, steady presence they actually want to follow.
Part II. Create a Home Where Everyone Can Settle. Build rhythms that reduce friction. Turn consequences into calm, cause-and-effect teaching instead of punishment.
Part III. Handle the Hard Moments Without Losing Yourself. Navigate defiance, screen battles, sibling rivalry, and the daily flashpoints that derail your evenings.
Part IV. Make These Shifts Last. Move past burnout and guilt. Create a Family Blueprint that's livable, not aspirational.
Each chapter includes reflection questions and a "Future Snapshot" showing what life looks like when these shifts take hold.
HOW THE COURSE WORKS
The Book Teaches You What. The Course Teaches You How.
Most parenting books end where the real work begins. You finish the last page feeling hopeful. Then your kid melts down at breakfast, and the ideas that made so much sense on the page feel impossible to find in the moment. So we've created an exclusive online course that bridges that gap.
WEEK 1
Build Your Foundation
Chapters 1-5. Understand your triggers, your child's needs, and the attachment science that makes everything else work.
Each day is a focused 15 to 20 minute session. Reflection, journaling, and one real practice to try with your family that evening.
Plus four recorded Q&A sessions featuring the top questions parents asked when this course ran as a live cohort, with Todd's real answers.
WEEK 4
Make It Last
Chapters 16-20. Build your Family Blueprint and the support systems that turn short-term shifts into permanent change.
WEEK 2
Regulate Yourself First
Chapters 6-10. Practice the daily tools for staying calm when your child's behavior is designed to pull you out of calm.
Connect and Lead
Chapters 11-15. Apply the framework to screen battles, sibling rivalry, co-parenting tension, and the moments that matter most.
WEEK 3
IS THIS FOR YOU?
Built for Parents Who've Tried Everything
You'll get the most from this bundle if you recognize yourself in any of these.
You've read other parenting books but still lose your footing when things get heated
You and your partner handle discipline differently, and it's creating tension
Screen time has become a daily battle you dread
Your child is bright, sensitive, or strong-willed, and the usual strategies don't work
You swore you'd never parent like you were raised, but under stress, those patterns show up
You can stay composed at work but become someone you don't recognize at home
You've learned the concepts but struggle to apply them in the heat of the moment
The book covers ages 2 through 12 primarily, though parents of teens and professionals also report finding it valuable.
Trained personally by attachment pioneer Dr. Gordon Neufeld and relationship experts Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Stan Tatkin, Todd translates complex developmental science into practical strategies that work in real homes with real kids.
About the Author
Todd Sarner, MFT
Director of Transformative Parenting
Todd Sarner is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, former faculty member of the Neufeld Institute, and a father who has guided over 2,000 families since 2003.
His signature Transformative Parenting Process Intensive (TPPI) has become a lifeline for thoughtful parents who've tried everything but still find themselves stuck in daily battles. This bundle distills that same clinical framework into a format any parent can use at home.
What Readers and Experts Are Saying
4.9 Stars on Amazon. 50+ Five-Star Reviews.
Here's what parents, therapists, and leading experts are saying.
Kim John Payne, M.Ed.
"From the very first page, you'll feel like a wise, warm friend is walking alongside you. This book makes attachment theory beautifully relatable and practical, moving it into loving steps that come from the heart."
Author of Simplicity Parenting, The Soul of Discipline, and Being At Your Best When Your Kids Are At Their Worst
Dr. Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D.
"Todd brings a sensitivity and compassion to his profession together with a strong understanding of how to help parents with their children. Parents can be assured they are in good hands with Todd."
Developmental Psychologist, Author of Hold On to Your Kids
Madeline Levine, Ph.D.
"The toughest part about educating parents is making sure that they leave with practical, enforceable and realistic solutions for their particular family. Todd delivers in spades."
Author of The Price of Privilege, Teach Your Children Well
Dr. Bonnie Hunter, MD
"As a pediatrician and a parent, I found this book incredibly helpful. Todd uses real-life stories to show how strengthening attachment, not using more discipline tricks, creates lasting change."
Pediatrician, Host of The Pediatrician Next Door Podcast
Jessica Rabon, Ph.D.
"This book provides a practical, attachment-based approach to parenting that focuses on connecting with our children as the foundation for our relationship."
Pediatric Psychologist, University of South Carolina School of Medicine Greenville
Tina Feigal, M.S.
"The magic in his writing is that he connects with his readers' everyday parenting experience so powerfully."
Parent Coach and Behavior Consultant
Hope
"As a therapist, I've taught parenting classes. I've read many parenting books over the years. I can honestly say, this is one of best books on parenting I've read."
Therapist
James Bozner
"What Atomic Habits did for the way I think about building habits, I have a feeling The Calm and Connected Parent by Todd Sarner is going to do for the way I approach parenting. That is not a comparison I make lightly. I came away with an abundance of practical, actionable ideas that I am already putting into practice. Sarner writes with clarity and warmth, and the advice never feels preachy or unattainable. It meets you where you are. This is a book I will come back to repeatedly. Hugely recommended, especially for parents looking for something genuinely practical rather than just reassuring."
★★★★★ NetGalley Reviewer
Ryan P. Watts
"As a dad and a coach, I read a lot of parenting and personal growth books, and The Calm and Connected Parent stands out for how accessible and relatable it is. Most importantly, this book helped me put words to the kind of father I want to be. Calm, steady, and someone my kids can orient to when life feels overwhelming."
Father & Coach
Reshaped How I See Myself As A Dad
★★★★★
Tessa Greenwood
"Two of our three kids are ADHD and addicted to screens. The battle rages on. This book hit the nail on the head for us, striking a rare balance between being deeply insightful and incredibly practical. There are real strategies here that we can already see a difference with."
Parent of 3, 2 with ADHD
Screens And Strong-Willed Kids
★★★★★
Deanna Harned
"Todd's simple and effective approach has shaped my parenting since my son's first year. He is now 18 and I wouldn't change a thing. This book captures the clarity, kindness, and practicality that make Todd's approach so powerful."
17+ Years Using Todd's Approach
Son Is Now 18. Wouldn't Change A Thing.
★★★★★
Richard
"This book cut through all the noise for me. Sarner doesn't give you another list of tricks or consequences. He shows you how to actually connect with your kid so the hard stuff (screens, meltdowns, defiance) gets easier naturally."
Parent
Gets To The Root, Not Just Symptoms
★★★★★
Anders R.
"I've read stacks of parenting books, but this one actually calmed me down while I read it. His warm, practical steps fit into messy real days, and the repair scripts saved me more than once."
Parent
Actually Calmed Me Down While I Read It
★★★★★
readerr5475
"The Calm & Connected Parent felt like a lifeline. The attachment-first approach helped me slow down and reconnect with my kids in ways I didn't realize I'd drifted from. The shift in our home has been real and noticeable."
Parent
Felt Like A Lifeline
★★★★★
Scott G.
"Over much of the 17 years, Todd was my trusted life and parenting coach. His experience and commitment to serve me in becoming the best person and father I could be was priceless. This is the guide for struggling parents."
Father, 17-Year Client
Priceless Parenting Wisdom
★★★★★
Elizabeth
"Not only have I been reading this book, I've also interviewed the man who wrote it. This book should be in every parent's hands. I have tried these same skills with my own kids, and I can tell you it makes a world of difference in your home."
Parent
Should Be In Every Parent's Hands
★★★★★
Captain J.
"This book is a lifesaver for any parent who feels like they are constantly yelling or fighting over screen time and chores."
★★★★★
C J White
"The book showed me how connection and emotional safety can change the entire tone of my home."
★★★★★
Mandy
"This book was right on time for my family. My twins are turning 13 next month and social media is looming over all of us."
★★★★★
Catherine Milam
"A wealth of encouragement, advice not just for parents but grandparents, really anyone wanting to understand."
★★★★★
Sheena E.
"My kids didn't fight, our home was so much more harmonious, and I got along better with my husband."
★★★★★
Fotogreen
"A beautifully written, practical, and deeply compassionate guide, without shame or perfectionism."
★★★★★
Lily A
"I couldn't help by the last chapter but think that maybe, I'm not completely messing this up after all."
★★★★★
Kelly Jabour Pramberger
"I walked away with new tools to help me connect with my son in a calm, efficient way."
★★★★★
Ivy Bilikam
"Todd's ability to clearly communicate and guide parents is unmatched. He has changed our family's day to day in the best way possible."
★★★★★
Evelyn M
"A thoughtful and reassuring guide. I really appreciated the attachment-first approach. The overall message is strong, clear, and genuinely helpful."
★★★★★
Therapist & Life Coach
"An insightful, attachment-focused guide that prioritizes building resilient kids over quick-fix compliance tactics. A valuable blueprint for lasting, positive change."
★★★★★
Chelsea.W
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The Complete System
Everything You Need to Close the Gap
A single hour of private parent coaching typically costs $200 to $350. Longer coaching programs can run into the thousands of dollars. And most of them give you techniques without addressing the deeper pieces that make those techniques actually work in your home.
This bundle gives you everything. The paperback book, 20 days of guided practice, the companion workbook, and four recorded Q&A sessions from the original cohort. For less than 30% of what a single hour of private coaching costs. The book and workbook are also available on Amazon, but the bundle and the course are exclusive to this page.
The Calm & Connected Parent (Paperback)
$16.95 value
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The 4-Week Book Companion Course
$197.00 value
20 daily video lessons and practice exercises, Monday through Friday for four weeks.
Companion Workbook (PDF)
$9.95 value
Journaling prompts, reflection exercises, and your Family Blueprint template for every chapter. Uploaded to your course for easy access.
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4 Recorded Q&A Sessions
$147.00 value
Recordings from when this course ran as a live cohort, featuring the top questions real parents asked and Todd's answers. Four sessions, one released per week alongside your progress.
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Total Value
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This bundle gives you all three -- at a price that makes it accessible to any parent who's ready to do the work.
The book gives you the map. The course and coaching sessions help you get there. The framework shows you what to do. The course helps you practice it in real life. The coaching sessions answer the questions that come up along the way.
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What ages does this cover?
The book covers ages 2 through 12 primarily, though parents of teens and professionals also report finding it valuable. The principles are rooted in attachment science and apply across developmental stages.
Why can't I just get the book and workbook on Amazon?
You can. The book and workbook are both available on Amazon separately. But the only place you can get this exclusive bundle, including the online course and the recorded Q&A sessions, is on this page.
How is this different from other parenting programs I've tried?
Most parenting programs give you scripts and techniques. This one starts with your own regulation and presence, because that's where lasting change actually begins. The companion course ensures you don't just read about it. You practice it daily with your family.
What exactly is the companion course?
A 4-week guided experience where you work through all 20 chapters in short daily sessions (15 to 20 minutes, Monday through Friday). Each session combines the book and companion workbook with reflection, journaling, and a real practice to try that day.
When does the course start?
The course begins the Monday after you enroll. You start the week with intention and momentum.
What are the recorded Q&A sessions?
Todd ran the course as a live cohort only once, to celebrate the release of the book. The Q&A sessions are recordings from that cohort, featuring the top questions real parents asked and Todd's answers. Four sessions release one per week alongside your course progress. You get the benefit of those original questions and coaching without waiting for another live cohort to run.
I'm already overwhelmed. Is this going to add more to my plate?
Each daily session is 15 to 20 minutes. Short chapters. Doable practices. The course structure actually reduces overwhelm by giving you one focused thing to work on each day.
Will this work for my strong-willed or sensitive child?
Yes. Strong-willed and sensitive children are often the most responsive to this approach because their resistance is usually driven by a need for connection and safety, not defiance.
How does the paperback bundle work?
After you purchase the bundle, the paperback ships directly to your door. You'll also get immediate access to the companion course, the downloadable PDF workbook, and the recorded Q&A sessions so you can start while the book is on its way.
What if I've already tried attachment-based parenting and it didn't work?
The book addresses this directly. Many parents who've tried attachment-based approaches were missing more than just the self-regulation piece. Kids also need clear consequences and firm but kind boundaries. Connection without structure leaves children feeling unsafe and pushes them to test harder. This bundle gives you the full picture. Regulation, connection, AND the kind of strong, loving leadership your child actually needs to settle.
Frequently Asked Questions
Common Questions
Your Family's Transformation Starts Here
Lead with calm. Guide with confidence. Raise kids who can think, feel, and choose well, even in the digital age.
Stop fighting the same battles every day. Your child wants to cooperate. They just need to feel connected to you first.
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The Calm & Connected Parent
By Todd Sarner, MFT · Director of Transformative Parenting
© 2026 Transformative Parenting LLC. All rights reserved.
DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?
The Calm & Connected Parent Book Learning Bundle